It is all love and happiness until you realise that organising your wedding is not just a day of a spiritual affair with your partner. Budgeting, Catering, Entertainment, Venue Selection and of course meeting in-laws can get a little too much. And in the middle of everything when you find yourself overwhelmed by all the things you may or may not be comfortable with, everybody starts making suggestions for you..and that’s where it gets really messy. To add to the chaos you forgot where you left your wedding planners phone number or the names of the guests your family told you about that must be invited. It is obvious that you want your wedding to be an unforgettable event for you and your partner as well as every other guest. It is probably going to be the biggest day of your life. So to make your childhood fairytale possible, we reached out to some of the best wedding planners we know in the business. Who gave us some pointers and 6 common rules that should be followed when planning a wedding.
We asked one wedding planner what was the first thing that came to her mind when she started doing this for a living. Within a second her reply was “timing and patience is everything here”. She added by saying “this is not something you cant leave to the last minute and do in last 3 months”. Her team are doing this for almost 10 years but still if they prioritise things and create a timeline, the whole event could get complicated. A quick win would be to start planning right after the engagement. Asian weddings are ten times vast in size and complexity than other cultures.
Essential Tips to Planning a Wedding
Communication is a must:
There should be a clear clarification between two families about the function. This can be done even before the engagement takes place but is even more crucial after the engagement. Both sides of the families or even just the bride and groom should sit together and comes to a conclusion about how they want things to be done. Sometimes you may find that the groom’s family wants just a simple wedding with just closed ones but on the bride’s side, there has to be a grand Asian wedding. So this is where complications can often arise in the process of planning a wedding.
Keep a Note:
When you are planning these kinds of big events keeping a diary is a must. All the important things regarding the wedding should be noted down in a notebook if your a traditionalist or digitally on your phone. Like the flowers shops phone number with order delivery date and description should be written. And if you are taking extra precautions you can always pin the cash memo with that page.
Wedding Venue and Date:
Arguably one of the most difficult things to decide but make enquiries into your top 2 desired wedding venues and check if the date of your wedding is available there for booking. If not consider another venue or another date. Our fellow wedding planner suggested to book the venue when the wedding is at least 6-8 months away. While you are waiting you are actually risking the date being unavailable to another couple.
Budgeting for the whole occasion:
Contact with the manager of the venue to get an overall idea of the cost for your wedding, check what is included and consider catering cost. Venue hire and catering can often be the biggest expense in organising a wedding so it’s crucial that you make the right choice based on your total wedding budget. Often we are seeing trends of other wedding functions being hosted at homes and smaller venues such as Mehendi Nights. You should keep a budget and stick to that as unexpected costs will surface. This is by far one of the most important topics we discussed.
Hiring a priest (Maharaj):
Now that you have booked the venue and finalised your wedding date. It is the perfect time to call your priest and get a word from him so that you can know if he is available at that time or not.
Make a guest list:
Traditionally, a wedding is an event for friends and family to come together to celebrate the union of the bride and groom. Two families can sit together and make a draft note of minimum and the maximum number of guests they can include and take a look on the budget too as you have to give the food caterer the list at some point.
Your wedding will be one to remember therefore there is no shame in admitting that you want every little thing perfect. Organising your big day won’t be easy but hopefully, this guide will help you in making the right decisions for your big day.